What Day Is It?

Today is Valentine's Day. Once a year we are reminded of what society thinks constitutes love between two people. At its simplest form today can be summed up with chocolate and flowers, maybe a card or a romantic dinner. Its the chance to prove how much you care for another person, making your own personal bubble of happiness for the day. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy Valentine's Day as much as the next person. I wore pink to try to get into the mood, and I definitely enjoyed some chocolate. But today is not just Valentine's Day. It's Singles Awareness Day (SAD).

I suppose being single I cannot truly understand the point of today. For me it isn't really a holiday, if it were we'd have school off. Maybe this day can only be enjoyed in its full purpose by the people in relationships. But currently I'm single and happy about it. For now this day just passes by as another Friday, with a little more chocolate than usual. So rather than spending the day dwelling on the idea of being in a relationship, I'm going to define why being single may be the happiest state of all (at least for now).

For those people like me, stubbornly independent and carefree, being in a relationship just bogs me down. I believe in fairy tale love, and until prince charming sweeps me off my feet I don't care to settle for just anyone. For now I'm taking the time to get to understand myself. Honestly, how can you be in a relationship, expecting to let someone else get to know you completely without knowing yourself? And who knows how long that could take. So for now I am content with the idea that I have more soul searching left to do.

I also believe that a relationship should be leading towards marriage. If I don't think that I could one day marry a guy, I'm not going to date him just to be with someone. And if a relationship is eventually working to marriage, the two people have to be completely devoted to each other. Of course they also need to make time for work, personal space, etc. But as a college student in her final semester, with a job and more homework than I seem able to manage, a relationship would just be more work. Not only would I be busy beyond belief, I would inherently give my most attention to school. This would leave the guy feeling unwanted and it just wouldn't be fair to either of us.

So all you singles listen up. It won't always be just you and your cat. One day you'll find that special someone, and if you're lucky you'll spend your entire lives together. And more than likely you'll have times that you miss the days of being young and single and carefree. So enjoy it while it lasts. You've got the rest of your lives to see Feb. 14 the way the chocolate suppliers and greeting card companies portray it.